Energising in a Complex World

When it comes to personality types, the concepts of introversion and extraversion are often misunderstood. Many people believe that being introverted means being shy, while being extraverted means being outgoing. However, the true distinction lies in how individuals recharge and where they draw their energy from. Additionally, some people identify as ambiverts, who can function well in both introverted and extraverted settings, which can sometimes lead to inner conflict.

Introversion: Energised by Solitude

Introverts are energized by spending time alone or with a small group of close friends. They often find social interactions draining and need quiet time to recharge. This doesn’t mean they dislike people; rather, they prefer depth over breadth in their relationships and interactions.

Common Challenges for Introverts:

  • Feeling overwhelmed in large social gatherings
  • Needing more downtime to recover from social interactions
  • Struggling to assert themselves in group settings

Mindfulness and Introversion: Mindfulness can help introverts by encouraging them to embrace their need for solitude without guilt. It teaches them to set boundaries and communicate their needs effectively. Practices such as mindful meditation and journaling can provide the quiet reflection time they crave.

Tips for Introverts:

  • Mindful Meditation: Spend time each day in quiet meditation to center yourself.
  • Setting Boundaries: Practice saying no to social events that feel overwhelming and prioritize activities that rejuvenate you.
  • Reflective Journaling: Keep a journal to process your thoughts and feelings, helping you understand your needs better.

Extraversion: Energised by Social Interaction

Extraverts gain energy from being around others. They thrive in social situations and often feel invigorated by interacting with a wide range of people. Solitude, on the other hand, can feel draining and isolating for them.

Common Challenges for Extraverts:

  • Feeling restless or anxious when alone for too long
  • Overcommitting to social engagements and experiencing burnout
  • Needing constant stimulation, which can sometimes hinder focus

Mindfulness and Extraversion: Mindfulness helps extraverts find balance by encouraging them to slow down and enjoy moments of stillness. It can also help them become more aware of their need for external validation and teach them to find contentment within themselves.

Tips for Extraverts:

  • Mindful Breathing: Practice deep breathing exercises to calm your mind and body, especially before or after social events.
  • Scheduled Downtime: Intentionally schedule quiet time to rest and reflect, even if it’s just a few minutes each day.
  • Mindful Listening: Engage in active listening during conversations to deepen your connections and focus on the present moment.

Ambivert: Navigating Both Worlds

Ambiverts, or ambient-verts, possess qualities of both introverts and extraverts. They can enjoy social interactions but also need time alone to recharge. This flexibility can be advantageous, but it may also create inner conflict as they struggle to balance these dual needs.

Common Challenges for Ambierts:

  • Feeling conflicted about social plans, sometimes wanting to go out and stay in simultaneously
  • Struggling to find a balance between social time and solitude
  • Experiencing mood swings based on social interactions and alone time

Mindfulness and Ambient-Vert: Mindfulness can help ambient-verts by fostering self-awareness and teaching them to recognize their changing energy needs. It encourages them to honor both sides of their personality and find a harmonious balance.

Tips for Ambient-Verts:

  • Energy Check-Ins: Regularly assess your energy levels and decide whether you need social interaction or solitude at that moment.
  • Balanced Scheduling: Create a schedule that includes both social activities and quiet time to ensure you are meeting both needs.
  • Mindful Decision-Making: When making plans, consider how you’ve been feeling recently and choose activities that align with your current energy levels.  Consider the people who fill your cup and be mindful when spending time with those who drain your energy. 

Building Self-Awareness and Communication Skills

Whether you identify as an introvert, extravert, or ambivert, building self-awareness is crucial for managing your energy levels and interactions. Counseling can help you understand your personality type better and develop strategies for effective communication and boundary-setting, especially when your needs differ from those of your partner.

Tips for Building Self-Awareness:

  • Personality Assessments: Tools like the Enneagram or Myers-Briggs Type Indicator can provide insights into your personality and preferences.
  • Reflective Practices: Regularly take time to reflect on your interactions and how they impact your energy and mood.
  • Therapeutic Support: Seek counseling to explore your personality traits and develop personalized strategies for managing stress and improving communication.


Understanding whether you are an introvert, extravert, or ambivert can significantly enhance your self-awareness and improve your relationships. By recognizing your unique energy needs and practicing mindfulness, you can find balance, set healthy boundaries, and communicate more effectively. Imagine a life where you honor your true self, manage your energy wisely, and enjoy fulfilling interactions with others. Start your journey towards greater self-awareness and harmony today.

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